We all have the same number of hours in a day, but our responsibilities vary greatly. For caregivers, it often seems that doing everything that needs to be done – not to mention a few want-to-dos – is an impossibility.

A few helpful words come to mind: plan, prioritize and pray.

Plan – a detailed proposal for doing or achieving something. One of the best ways to use your minutes, hours and days wisely is to plan ahead. Thinking about your upcoming tasks and taking time to make a to-do list that you can check off will not only help you organize your mind, but may also challenge you to use your time wisely. Since caregiving situations are diverse and everyone has distinct ideas about the best way to accomplish their goals, the planning process may require a little trial and error. Some people like to plan a month at a time; others prefer to mark their calendars weekly. And, there are those who like to wing it at the last minute – probably not the best attribute for a caregiver. Find the method that works best for you.

There are all kinds of tech helps available, but you would have to ask my husband about them. I use a simple calendar tacked to the wall beside my desk. “Simple” is a misnomer because it is actually a personalized one my daughter Emily present to me for Christmas every year. The custom design includes photos of our children and grandkids with birthdays and anniversaries already noted. Which reminds me; plan to celebrate the special occasions in your loved one’s life.

In addition to the calendar, I make daily lists as needed. It is motivating to see those red check marks I put beside an item when it is completed. And yes, sometimes I write down an errand I have already finished just so I can jumpstart the check-offs.

Prioritize – designate or treat something as more important than other things. Some caregiving duties will not wait. Medication administration comes to mind. If you organize prescriptions in customized pillboxes once a week, you will save time and increase safety. When you notice it is almost time for a refill, go ahead and telephone the pharmacy (or place the mail order). Keep the pillbox in a cool, dry place that is out of reach of your loved one.

Meals are another essential. If your receiver is able, why not sit down with him once a week and work together on a menu? A half hour of meal-planning will save you stress, time and money in the long-run. Hygiene and doctor appointments also belong at the top of the list along with personal time for the caregiver to replenish body and spirit. No, this is not just a want-to-do – it is a definite priority.

So what is left on the list that isn’t a priority? Probably not much…but some activities (visiting, shopping, cleaning) can be put off to a more convenient time if necessary responsibilities crowd them out. You have likely heard poetic advice for moms that advocate the virtues of spending time with the children over attaining a spotless house. That adage applies to caregivers as well; making sure your loved one’s needs are met is more important than an immaculate home. However, do remember that a clutter-free home is easier to clean and live in. Getting and staying organized will not only save you time in the long-run but may even allow for a few of the want-to-dos on your list.

Pray – express a solemn request or expression of thanks to God. I have believed in the power of prayer all my life, but becoming a caregiver drove me to my knees regularly. Answers to those prayers kept me going back. Prayers of thanksgiving? They seem to come naturally as you reap the rewards of the many blessings that come with being a caregiver.